Even in the book of Genesis, God said it was good for man not to be alone. We were created for healthy relationships.
What is a relationship? Investing in a person by connecting socially, emotionally, mentally, and physically. In order for the relationship to be classified as healthy, there should be a connection based on mutual respect, trust and honesty.
1. RESPECT - the opposite of respect is disrespect, disregard, non-caring
2. TRUST - the opposite of trust is fear, mistrust, insecure
3. HONESTY - the opposite of honesty is deceit, betrayal
In a relationship, if just one of the three foundations is compromised, it can greatly affect the integrity of that relationship.
IMPORTANT GUIDELINES CONCERNING RELATIONSHIPS
1. Emotional responsibility - Own your emotions
It becomes unhealthy when:
*we ignore our feelings - meaning we live in our head instead of reality
*we judge ourselves wrongly -
*we turn to addictions to avoid feelings
*we make others responsible for our feelings
Listen, there is enough victim mentality in our culture today. It is chic and trendy to just blame someone else, blame the government, blame the church, blame our parents, blame the dog (smile). Blame anyone other than ourselves for our actions and who we are.
Life is going to be tough. Things will trip us up. People will abandon us, betray us, hurt us, and take advantage of us. But that gives us NO excuse to surrender our integrity, our core values, our faith. OWN YOUR EMOTIONS. Look them in the face and see the rawness of them. The ugliness of them. The power of them.
Kim is wife to Jeff, mother to three daughters, five grandchildren, a life coach and counselor, an author of two books, and a college minister and independent business owner. Lots of fan in the fire. Managing life is the best way to get it all done.