Let me be clear from the beginning. This isn't a study that gives us permission to quit, to not persevere, and to absolutely lose hope. Not at all. This is a study on wisdom, timing, and a learning to use your resource of energy and trust in the best way possible.
Biblical redemption is one of the most beautiful gifts from a wise and loving Heavenly Father. Being bought by a price in order to press forward to becoming a new creature.
And because of that above truth, God wants the same thing for us in our daily lives. He desires for us to be fruitful, productive, whole, living abundantly and wisely. However, that comes from failures, mistakes, slip ups, and getting bogged down. We learn from those things. We should never hate the failures and mistakes. They should become the launch pad from which we spring to new heights.
We will fail. We will make mistakes. We will get bogged down in life's dramas at times. Wisdom and strength comes from learning to recognize when we are STUCK in a situation or relationship. When we are going backwards and not forward as God intends.
1. There are 3 questions we should ask ourselves before going back to anything that previously did not work:
1) Am I different? Have I truly grown, changed?
2) Is the other person(s) different? Have they truly changed? (not just used words)
3) Is the situation different in some way that would cause productive change?
2. If something did not work the first time, make sure you don't go back if that REASON IT DIDN'T WORK is still there (whether it is you, another person, or a situation)
3. If redemption in a failed relationship or situation is to occur, something truly must be different.
4. A second chance is not a repeat of the first chance. Ever.
5. A second chance (going back in order to move forward) is a moving forward to something new.
6. If everything is exactly the same in a relationship or situation, then you will be repeating what already has been, and there is no reason to think the outcome will be different.
7. "SORRY" is not good enough. Something has to tangibly be different. True repentance can be seen in the fruit it produces. (Matthew 3:7-8)
8. God has designed life as FORWARD MOVING. Today should be different than yesterday through lessons learned well.
9. The best way to remain stuck - not moving forward - is to keep repeating what has already been. Over and over. Without anything changing.
10. You know what a relationship or situation was like (good and bad). So if you do not want the negative in that relationship or situation to repeat itself, make sure you are going back to something different (you, the other person or situation)
IF YOU GO BACKWARDS, YOU ARE ONLY GOING BACKWARDS....
But if you go BACK to a previous relationship or situation, make sure something is different so you are ultimately MOVING FORWARD!
Blessings....until next time!! Kim
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Kim is wife to Jeff, mother to three daughters, five grandchildren, a life coach and counselor, an author of two books, and a college minister and independent business owner. Lots of fan in the fire. Managing life is the best way to get it all done.